What am I working on right now.

For the last million years I have been focussing on the Identity construction. I have been researching, practicing and teaching about it. It became a friend, really. The Identity Construction or the I.D.C. is a method, a way of looking at the self and the behaviour we humans have and why. Why are you like this! As a psychology student and now psychologist I can tell you many, many people since the beginning of time have been pondering over this question. How ever! A lot of the research out there is either outdated or only written by white men, and I just could not relate. So many years ago I started to develop my own method of working and viewing human (my own) behaviour. In the base of base this is where I started:

The big question of WHY am I like this had to have a source. In this first I.D.C. I choose this sequence, after talking to my peers and teachers to ask if the choice of words was not to direct, because you know how sensitive people can get.

1: The self, is the I, the you when you were born and perfect and happy.

2: The core wound, the event that happend that changed all of this.

3: The choice, what you decides out of this core wound about who you are and the world.

4: The patterns are the result of you repeating those choices.

5: The conditioning, the glue that holds it all together, the invisible force of shit.

In the exploration fase of all this work I soon saw how many depth the I.D.C. actually had. It became this puzzle that I was obsessed with to understand, to solve.

After teaching about the I.D.C. in the base I knew I had to bring out all the tricks I knew to let people actually feel what they ment. For every layer I designed practices to expand the awareness. A three day class turned into a 10 day retreat and before I knew it I was teaching a 9 month program revolving the I.D.C.

Side quest.

This took me about 8 years and I had help from so many people! In that period I constantly upgraded my knowledge by following different studies, classes and therapy while giving multiple classes a year. This was a f%cking journey! This did not came easy at all because one thing about me, if i don't believe it I wont teach about it. So every layer, every part of the I.D.C. I dissected within myself to really understand. Because I like Einstein, and he said: if you cant explain it simply you don't understand it properly. He also said that if we did not invent time everything would happen at the same time. Anyway.

The way I did it for a long way was to show the consequences, almost like showing what happens if you don't fix this. Now, I was young and arrogant and I was in a hurry and in that toxic cocktail I missed steps. So I went back to the drawing board and challenged myself to look deeper. And so came, after a lot of trail and error, practice and experience, a more elaborate version.

The deepening was there and during The Art of Color program in 2025 I got the chance to start putting the theory in practice to get proof of concept. All by the grace of the students and team that took a leap of faith and made the decision to trust me.

I thank the Gods every day that they did, because as you read in my previous blog, it allowed me to fall even deeper into the maze of the mind. And after one year of hermit life I came back into the world with more deepening. I detected a plot whole in my masterplan because I had (and have) some of my own issues that I needed to work out. Like I said before, to see how harsh I was for myself about this illusion that this was a puzzle that I needed to understand and solve to have worth, was a game changer. My focus in the I.D.C. was similar. Just as when I was young and arrogant and I in a hurry I missed steps. Even though this version of the I.D.C. was the most successful I had ever seen it, it was also clear to me that I needed another ingredient.

More about this in one year.

Just kidding.

A few weeks ago I had a conversation with my wife about a topic in her life that she was struggling with. My wife is familiar with my work and has a good understanding of herself in this world. However she was stuck in a situation. As two girls in peri menopause our home is sometimes a minefield. Also putting a capricorn and gemini together is bosslevel stuff. Anyway, after the first immature reactions from both sides I said; okay maybe I can not be as soft as you want in this moment or give the support you want, but I can offer my skill. And one of my masterd skills is too unravel the mess and create understanding by logical sequenses and facts. Would you like that?

And so we began. I took out my notebook and started writing and asking questions and trying to understand what was happening in her mind and with her emotions.

This is a love language for me, as a neurodivergent human I am not always the best in holding hands, I show my love and comfort in things that I think are usefull. Lucky for me my wife has understanding and compassion for me in ways that don't come natural to me. So she went along with it. Lucky for us, because after an hour and a half we created the way out together. A massive gift for me because I saw all the connections in my work where I 'missed this step'. And a gift for her because it created the space for her to make some radical changes and better her situation and resolve her dillema.

The next day I read through the notes and saw where it would fit in the I.D.C.

I called it the Rewriting process.

You see you can have all the information and all the tools in the world, but if you can not soften your believe system, you can not have new experiences, and if you can not have new experiences you will be stuck in a loop of thinking you can not do it. At the end of the day our minds are not our enemies. The mind is just filled with programs that are running on automatic pilot. So when we introduce a new program the old ones will have something to say about it. You see, it is not personal. The programs run on facts, results, proof. So in order to rewrite we need something else.

We need courage, faith, support, love. I can tell you, and you already know, that some behaviour you are showing is not the most alligend with your most healthy self. We all know that. But me telling you; just don't do that, wont do the trick. Becasue we are dealing with major guilt and shame issues that we did not even touch yet. We need to go deeper.

That, my friends, is what I am working on at the moment. My notebook is filled with drawings and notes and I am taking my sweet time to digitalise them to share with you. With the least amount of arrogance or hurry, I promise.

Stay tuned.

Love Navaya

Special shout out to my wife for puzzling with me.

And Miss Bhagwandin for creating these images for us.